I will admit that I feel like I’ve struggled to adjust to life as a mom, and especially life as a stay-at home mom. I, like most mothers, really want to do everything right and realizing I can’t has really frustrated me. I mean, first of all, I don’t really know what doing everything right means for me. Obviously every mom is different with different opinions on how to do things, but where exactly do I stand? I have big worries and small ones. Am I doing the right thing by staying at home with my kids instead of continuing on with my career? Am I off to the right start with nurturing my child’s development? Is it okay that Brevin still drinks from a Nuby sippy cup? Should we have moved on already? What if we struggle with potty training?
On the other hand, with a two year old and another baby on the way I am also really concerned about savoring every moment of these fleeting stages of pregnancy, babyhood and early childhood. I may not have a clue what I’m doing as a mom, but I don’t want to spend so much time worrying about how I’m doing that I don’t appreciate these precious experiences.
I recently found an article, “What We Wish We Knew Then,” that spoke to me about what parents really end up regretting when their kids are grown. Was it all about how long they were able to nurse their babies? No. Was it about how and when they potty-trained their toddlers? Nope. It was less about sweating the small stuff and more about enjoying the little things.
So, if your head is spinning like mine is, take a few minutes to read about what other parents wish they’d known. It might help you see your stage of parenting from a new perspective.